Improve Dull Marital Life

We’ve all been there, where you might be together and married for a long time now, but it’s okay, not great. You’re fighting with your spouse, not talking at all and intimacy? Forget it. If you were wondering what happened to your marriage, we’ve got the fix. We work on great ways to make you and your spouse fall in love and rebuild the old intimacy. If you haven’t been intimate in forever, or feel like you and your partner are like roommates and push yourself to the bedroom. It’s not common and there are scientific reasons behind it because for many women, sexual desire doesn’t just happen- you have to make it happen, Unlike men’s more highly sexed or sexually aroused, who feels desire before arousal. Women’s need to be stimulated only then the brain gets the signal that they are turned on. Think of it as the hardest part of exercise- “Putting on the sneakers is the hardest part, rest just goes with the flow”. As Michele Weiner-Davis beautifully said in her best selling book “Divorce Psychology”, “I really wasn’t in the mood when my husband approached me, but once we got into it, I enjoyed it a lot”. According to Gottman, friendship among the couples is at the very heart of any marriage, and by enhancing love maps, embraces the quality of marriage. When you argue a lot about situations and there’s a lot of “you you you” in your argument, this means your marriage is not in a good shape. You make fights about stuff like- “You didn’t do ‘X’ thing and you should have done ‘Y’ or anything closer” just ratchets up the anger and stress level which causes more defensiveness and division. It’s been commonly observed when a partner gets defensive they say things unconsciously, which hurt their partner feelings. A common thing about people is that people are deeply attracted or interested in individuals who appreciate them and show care for them by their actions. Our activities will help you in finding positive things about your partner, and make you notice and appreciate little things so that they will keep turning to you, and you be the centre of their life.

Goldstein concluded that a whopping 70 percent of those couples reported an improvement in their relationship, who started appreciating the efforts, their partners made for them

  Talking plays a key role in any relationship and oftentimes it has taken for granted. We give enough importance to communication and understand that sometimes, couples are lost in the hustle of their life and have some important projects with strict deadlines on their way, which compromises the communication. Hence our activities include some basic tasks like “Talking an average of 10 minutes” every day on any topic because we understand the impact of momentum, once you and your partner warms up, you can put some of the topic that is troubling you for which you might be looking for their opinion. In marriage, it’s unrealistic to expect that each day there would be some sort of magical or butterfly inducing moment will happen, that being sad but it’s not right either that you devote yourself to a life full of dullness, boredness and restrictions. “Boredom in a marriage is a sign that you and your partners started taking each other for granted” said by psychotherapist Teen Tessina. Might be your activities are too routine based, because your kids, grandparents and job are taking a chunk of your day and you barely left with any quality time with your partner. If you feel like you and your partner are comfortable with your normal routine but it’s too redundant, to change this you don’t have to shake things up. It’s important to make such decisions while considering all the odds, how much leverage you have and how good or bad it could affect your relationship. These are crucial variables and our therapist helps you with this, we follow SFBT(Solution Focused Brief Therapy) in suggesting activities that make things interesting again. As we get older and the negative stress piles on, many of us fall into the trap of considering our life too seriously. With time we lose our childlike sense of wonder and goofy sense of humour. To counteract this you have to incorporate some play into marriage and later make it a regular thing. Dr. Haltzmann describes in his book that fun adds a new dimension to your marriage, changes things up and adds new adventures which helps in improving dull marital life. We noticed from our previous consults that getting involved in doing two or three new things a month together had done wonders to their relationships. We design activities with involvement of your previous dating history which turns you on back then, like- picked up at the front doorstep and taking the car parking, including the flowers and some unplanned sudden trips to locations. We provide couples with facts, pros and cons in helping you get over any reluctance that you make you think, you will appear silly in incorporating old ways. Every relationship goes through ups and downs, and every couple fights, but what matters the most is each partner makes efforts to resolve issues in relationship and not make a negative perception about each other. People think if they are unhappy there is a problem in their marriage, But up to 80% of individuals consider divorce at some time in their life. We believe that there is a little difference between couples who divorce and those who stick to it. The real difference is those who stuck it out and have moved past the problems remain happy ever after.

Life shrinks and expands in proportion to one’s courage

–Anais Nin

Why Choose Us

We have successfully treated 10 Lakh+ clients and improved their marriage. Our Doctors are highly qualified and have service specific training