Blissful Separation

Divorce and Separation may look similar but have different legal statuses. A separation is when two married individuals decide to separate either short-term or long term. This means for whatever reason they may have separated, they have chosen to separate their assets, debts and responsibility without moving with a formal divorce. Pre divorce counseling is recommended when partners are burned out towards each other and constantly setting each other off and acting out in damaging ways. Separation is a stepping stone of divorce if during separation couples aren’t able to get their act together, then they further move forward with divorce. Opting for divorce straight ahead in marriage is not recommended because there are relationships wired with your marriage either directly or indirectly (like your children, paternal and maternal families, social reputation etc), and it will lead a drastic impact on your life. It is not recommended that child and emotionally weak individuals suffer from SAD Separation Anxiety Disorder. Separation in itself is classified into three categories Trial, Permanent and Legal Separations. Trial Separation is incorporated when couples need a break from a relationship and need time to think about it from a different perspective, reconsider their hopes and finances. They chose to live apart while being confused between giving relationship a chance or divorce. While couples are separated all the same rules will apply as they were married in terms of ownership of property, debt etc if you and your spouse are hoping to reconcile then this could be a better option to go for. Permanent Separation: When couples live apart without intending to reconcile and are not divorced considered as permanent separation. Once couples are permanently separated individuals are no longer responsible for any of the spouse’s income or debt. Once they have separated and made joint agreements about joint assets and debts, then there is no longer need to file for divorce right ahead. Legal Separation/Divorce: Couples can get a legal separation by filing a request in family court. Being legally separated is a different legal status(under section 10 of Hindi Marriage act 1955) from being divorced or married. Court’s order granting the legal separation includes orders about property division and child custody and support, just as divorce would. People generally choose legal separation for a desire to keep the family together for the sake of their children, the need of health insurance benefits are lost by the divorce.

Just because a relationship ends doesn’t mean that two people stop loving each other, but they stop hurting each other

  Separation anxiety is a natural part that develops in emotionally weak individuals, infants instinctively seek proximity to parents, caregivers, and they get alarmed when at the time of separation they start to feel their needs will no longer be fulfilled. There are four main attachment styles: secure attachment, anxious attachment, disorganised attachment and anxious ambivalent attachment. Anxious ambivalent attachment is more relevant in terms of separation as it says infants feel extremely distressed and anxious when either parent is absent, and does not feel reassured when they return. However marriage separation is a double edged sword, on the one hand it gives couple time to deal with the issues that are pulling them apart on the other hand there’s a chance that things won’t work out. If planned thoughtfully and in therapy with divorce therapist, you can meet regularly and air your grievances. Implied in this approach the chances of a relationship might work. This is like pressing a pause button rather than a stop button. Couples mediation therapy helps couples establish some clear ground rules that give them freedom, platform to express their thoughts. Setting boundaries means expectations such as talking about the duration of break and questions like: Is it Okay to call/ text?, Is it Okay to be intimate with each other?, Is it Okay to stop by each residence unannounced? Marriage counseling before divorce allows couples to make an agreement to have regular therapy sessions, focussing on working on relationships and enhancing chances of success. Divorce Counseling helps them decide how often they should see each other, if sexual activity is acceptable etc. depending on relationship status.

At some point you will realise that some people can stay in your heart but not in your life

  Talking to children with honesty is fairly important, if couples are planning to separate for a period of time or considering divorce careful usage of vocabulary while giving the message is important. Research shows that children are more likely to suffer from SAD (stress anxiety disorder). We believe, if a child is younger than twelve, giving too much information is not recommended. Tell them something like: “Mommy and Daddy need time to figure out how to get along better so we’re gonna try to live apart. We both love you and will make sure that you see both of us” and if your kids are older than twelve, they can handle little more information. A break can be a healthy antidote for couples who make commitments to work on relationships with the intention of dealing with issues that divides them. Absence makes couples realise how important they are for each other and help them think from different perspectives. Couples from extremely high conflict and abusive backgrounds are receptive to therapy to work on ways to improve the communication and increase positive interaction.

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Divorce and separation are highly sensitive topics and should be considered with a clear understanding of what’s next. Here we have achieved excellence in treating and helping couple with issue related to resolving as well as dissolving marriage